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Skype Satsang with Mohanji in Serbia on 26th October, 2013
Q: I would like to ask about free will and decisions in everyday life. To be spontaneous and be like a river is an imperative of our spiritual life, but we cannot be totally passive in that. We sometimes have to do something with all respect for god’s will. Even if we have faith in existence, we are in position to act, but we often have dilemma, whether to go right or left. So, how to cover this gap? Could you tell us about free will in everyday life?
A: Free will in everyday life is more or less like a myth. When we were in our last life, we gathered a lot of emotions, desires, understandings, misunderstandings. All these things put together created karma in this life. Before we started this journey, before we took this birth, we clearly decided, these are desires, these are emotions, these are materials that we want to experience in this new life. When we thus decided, we almost completely gave up free will. Because we chose from our first heartbeat to our last heartbeat, where we will be born, to which kind of parents, what sort of experiences, the place, the education, relationships, all these things we actually decided before we came here. This is why we are born in a particular place, to a particular set of parents, and we have certain taste, education, some people like to do yoga, some people like to do sports, play tennis… all these qualities, all these characteristics we chose before we came. That is why our children have distinct characteristics. They are very clear about what they want, more or less they have a clear character. This is because they had chosen it before. So, to live now, the understanding we need to have is that whatever we are experiencing today, is what we have chosen. And whatever we will experience tomorrow, is what we have chosen. At the same time, we can choose one thing: we can chose not to accumulate more desires, more emotions while we are living. This is our advantage, this is free will. If you want to stop accumulating more desires and more emotions, i.e. you should have complete understanding about your daily life, your now. That means acceptance of every day as it is and no resistance, no storage of emotions, whatever comes to us just let it come and go. We remain always clean and pure. If we can operate on that level, there will be no accumulation of new desires and new emotions. That is exactly our free will. Our free will today is not to have further emotions, further desires. When we are enjoying and experiencing everyday activity, our mind is completely here, in the present, enjoying that activity fully and experiencing an event fully, completely, so that we are satisfied, fulfilled each moment, that is exactly the free will that we have.
There is also one more thing. When you lose interest in something and you say, “Ok, I had enough of this experience, I’m fine, I’m happy,” including relationship, that desire and that emotion also get dropped. That is also a free will while living. This is the only free will we can operate on because we have chosen our lifespan, how long we will live, we have chosen our activity and all the qualities of our activity, our character, our shape, country, culture, even the food we consume, the taste we enjoy, all these things were decided before.
So, your free will is: 1. do not accumulate any more, 2. you can always grow over an emotion, grow over a taste and say, “I had sufficient of it, I don’t need any more,” that
drops off so that you are liberated more and more. Each moment you can liberate yourself.
Q: You said we should accept everything that comes our way, and that we should totally accept it, then you said something about enjoying it, but what if the experience is very bad or very painful, should we also totally accept that?
A: If an experience is painful, understand where the pain exists. The pain exists only in waking state mind. It cannot be translated into your dream state, nor can it be moved to your deep sleep state. The mind which is conditioned with so much of our education, culture, upbringing basically, that is the mind which gives the suffering. Emotional suffering is always related to mind. But we can understand, “Ok, this is coming and going, but we are not bound by people, personalities, time, space, situations, country, culture, nothing. Because we just experience that. We are experiencing and we are moving on. As an effect, nothing can bind us, nothing can conquer us, because we are free, right from birth to death.” But mind does not allow us to be free most of the time. Mind will say, “This is injustice, this should not happen. This should be different.” And we always manipulate based on mind’s opinions. That is the time when suffering happens. Otherwise, we could say, “Ok, I had a relationship which was not my taste, it didn’t suit me. Let me go away.” Like that, we can step aside and watch the whole show. At that point in time, we are very powerful. We cannot be defeated. Mind actually pulls us down but if we use our intellect and understand that all these things are passing and they cannot bind us, with that clear understanding if you move, everything is just experience. Everything is just experience, there is no pepper or salt in it.
Q: If free will is a myth, what is the purpose of life then? Why are we here? If everything is predestined, what are we doing here, on the Earth?
A: Simple, what you are experiencing today, that experience is what you have chosen. That is why you are here. It is almost like an automatic mode. We have clear understanding of all our thoughts, words, actions, and we do not keep emotions with them, we will not come back. But what happens is we resist, we have anger, we have anxiety, we have fear, we have love, it’s all a mixture of all these, and this comes out as desire. For example, one man is telling a woman, “I love you so much! I would like to be your son in the next life” or “If only I was your son!” The desire becomes very strong and the relationship has to materialize in another life. This is how we create our destiny. Likewise, two people are fighting, and one person says, “I will kill you! I will surely kill you!” and they become very angry with each other. But if they could not complete that anger with each other or sort it out, unconsciously they will come back again in the next life as brothers or brother and sister, or father and son… and there will be a big fight in the family, because the anger transferred. So, unconsciously we are creating our destiny, and when after our death from this life we are preparing for the next life, this agenda we have, of our desires, of what we would like to achieve within one lifetime. This is clearly defined and decided and laid out in that plane between the death and the new birth. That is the time when the whole format is made. And while the format is being made you have full free will, only free will. But once you say, “This is what I want to do, I’ve created my agenda” and then you close it, you cannot change it. So, unconsciously we are creating our lifetimes. But while living, we never understand that. People cannot meet if there is no karma behind it. You will not listen to me if there is no karma behind it.
Q: Does soul have to experience all that?
A: Soul does not experience, soul is like a petrol in the car, it just helps the journey. It is not deciding the destination. Each soul has a different set of experience because each soul operates a different body. The same food will be different for different people, some people say this is good, some people say this is not good. Food is the same, but the taste is different. That is why each soul operates as a different machine, different body.
Q: I was in a conflict with someone and I’m aware of our different opinions, different attitudes towards life, and I try to detach, but that person is attached to me. Do I have to be born again just because that person is emotionally involved with me?
A: Yes, actually this is the complication of life. Maybe you got out of it, but that other person may not have got out of it. It is important to nurture it in such a way that you slowly have to take his hand and put it somewhere else. You have to divert that person’s attention to something else. Because what happens is, one person is completely relieved or detached, but the other person still holds on. It means the hook is still on your flesh so it is important to detach slowly, slowly with understanding, awareness, and make them feel just like the mother slowly, slowly detaches the child from having the milk, similarly you have to slowly, slowly detach that person. People are children.
Q: The more I try, the angrier or the more frustrated he gets.
A: You have to handle it carefully because this is life and emotion. Make that person realize that this is over…as if somebody dies and goes. What would you do? You cannot do anything, right? That stops there. Like that, we have to handle the relationship in such a way that the other person is very clear that it cannot continue or change the pattern of relationship. For example, suddenly you become motherly or something else, that doesn’t suit the other person and the person says, “Ok, now the relationship has changed.” Like certain people after divorce continue to be good friends, so the old emotions do not exist any more. I’ve seen many people like that. We have to turn the relationship in such a way that it relieves you, detaches you, liberates you.
Q: If someone has a health problem in this life which is a problem from past life, does this person have to suffer from this illness the whole life or can he or she be somehow healed?
A: I would say that both if somebody does something good to you, try to compensate in some way. I normally pay people or do something for them if they do something for me, so that it gets equalized. Likewise, if it’s hurt, I wouldn’t recommend hurting the other person because that continues. If somebody hurts you, you hurt them back, then again they hurt you… Because this is an ego issue. My suggestion is that the best thing to counter any kind of hurt is through love. You can definitely say if you are happy, by doing this if you feel satisfied. Or we can deal with the whole situation with lot more maturity, using the brain, so that it stops there. I was telling one person who was writing a letter saying a lot of bad things about the other person. I suggested a reply saying, “Thank you very much for letting me know, but my love cannot change.” That stopped the communication. There is no further argument, no further discussion. So it is better to cut short something negative as early as possible. But the good thing, make it continue.
Physical illness is a result of emotions. When you trap emotions, it becomes physical later. It is important to let go, relax and leave it, so that even the diseases may not materialize or manifest, as much as you could. Many times diseases are kept and captured by emotions, our mind.
Bless You All
Transcribed by Biljana V.
Q&A in Novi Sad, Serbia
Q: If one wants to achieve a goal, and encounters a lot of obstacles or even one obstacle which is tough and seems too difficult to overcome, should we consider it as a sign that we should turn to other direction or should one persist and endure, slowly waiting to achieve that goal?
A: Whatever the speed is, the speed is not the point. Your moving is the important thing. Are you moving ahead or are you stagnating? So speeding is not important, but keeping on moving is important. Time is like this. Actually time itself is not slow, but there are many obstacles so that we become slow. What you should do is, ensure that even if movement is slow, keep moving, so that eventually, you will reach your destination. My calculation is, until December 2017 the speed of journey or hurdles will be more or less similar. It will not be much different from now. It is from December 2012 to December 2017, i.e. five years. But NOW is a very good time to plant the seeds for what you want to do in the future, it is time to start doing it. Before December 2017, you can set everything in order and then it will be a smooth, hurdle-free journey. So please keep moving, I’m holding you.
Q: A lot of negative things have happened in my life recently, how to get rid of negative emotions, I can’t control my space to be clean and peaceful. I’d like to escape somewhere deep within, but how to do that?
A: When there are some kind of emotions which are residues from the past, it is common for everybody, not only you, all people are storing it and suffering because of it. Look at your life now. Is it 50% positive and 50% negative or your thought is more positive or more negative? This is the first level of analysis. Positive is that we are in good health, we are eating all right, we are sleeping all right, etc. First start with what is there. So, start with what you have, what is in good condition in your life. Start from there. This will help you to increase your positiveness. Then second thing is when you look at the past, things that happened in the past, if you store those details, it is likely that they will happen again or get repeated in the future. Whatever happened in the past, understand that it was a different time in the past, different space, different mind, so start looking at it like, „Ok, that is past, that is dead, that is gone.“ And today you are a new person. This is your reality, today, now. You are not the past, you are not the future, you are perfectly new, as you know. At this point of time you are very powerful. You do not know about the past because it is already finished. You do not know about the future because it is yet to be. Now you are very powerful. If you focus yourself on now, with all pluses and minuses, the past or future doesn’t matter, if you focus yourself on the right now you will be perfectly fine. You will always do good. When the mind goes to the past, especially the guilt, you must tell the mind, “That is history. I am different now. I have gained more strength for today from the past despite my past. Today I am more powerful.” This is the way to tackle the current mind. Mind will definitely go to the past, but bring the mind back to the present. You should always be conscious. You should always think, “This is the only reality I have. I am living today. I am working today. I am talking today. This is my only reality.” From here you start working. And all the people who are with you are your current reality. Be with them. Harmonize them. Give love, share love, so that everyone is happy when you are around. That way you can make your future much better.
Q: While I was in a deep meditation, my inner sight was extremely focused so, let’s say, I was in a thoughtless state for longer time. At that moment I felt strong heartbeat which was as if I was having a heart attack. My heart was pumping, pumping, pumping and I didn’t know what to think or feel. It was like my heart was going to explode. Could you tell me what happened?
A: These are always phases when energy shifts within. Sometimes when you meditate, especially when the mind goes blank, when the mind empties completely, suddenly there will be a surge of energy in the veins, through the meridians. And then it can conglomerate in some places, especially in the head, heart or stomach center. It usually moves up and down. And this is natural. Just allow it to happen. And at that time, surrender more. Your mind would have completely emptied itself so you have just to focus on that thing and keep breathing. In this case, I understand that you may feel panic, but it is important to connect to me at that time. If you connect to me at that time, you will automatically feel that energy is normalizing. Try that.
Q: I connected with you, Mohanji, That’s how I saved myself! 🙂
A: Yes, I know. I can give you another technique. Just sit quiet, and just go through the breath for a few minutes. Sit quiet and go through the breath entering your system, and prana going through the body. It may take some time, but just focus on your breath entering through the nose, and reaching every cell of your body. Totally internal. Only breath and you. Just start feeling. So, when you concentrate on the breath, on the air going in, you will start going through the breath, to the energy particles of the breath, which is actually nourishing the cells through the meridians. Just feel the energy flowing through your body, through the veins, through every meridian, and it reaches all the parts of the body. Just be with the energy flow. And when you flow through that energy, you can reach every cell of your body, every part of your body, every organ of your body through inside, so that it touches everywhere. When you are aware of that, slowly you will be aware of the sounds of your body. First the sound inside the body, the heartbeat, then the circulation of blood, the secretion of juices in the stomach… All these sounds will be occupying you.
So, When you go through the breath, the next is sound. Once you go through the sound, when you become the sound, automatically with the sound there is vibration. You will become the vibration of the sound. And when you become the vibration of the sound, slowly, slowly you will start feeling the brightness of every cell because every cell has an aura. And you start feeling that aura. It is the light, very, very, very thin, but it is brightness. You will start feeling the brightness. And when you start feeling the brightness, you will also start feeling the lightness of the body. The body becomes very light. When the body becomes lightness, or when you start feeling the light, you will start feeling the light of the soul, the energy that operates your body. Once you start feeling the energy that operates the body, once you start feeling the soul, at that time you would have completely merged with the consciousness.
So, the first and the only effort you need is to stay with the breath. And when you stay with the breath, that breath will take you to every other stage, that of sound, that of light, and that of brightness, and dissolution. You’ll go to all the stages automatically, you don’t have to do anything. Just be with the breath in the first stage. That is only determination you need. You can practice this on your own, and you will see the difference. Nowhere energy will be blocked. And before you start, please connect to my eyes for two minutes, then start. It may take some time, from the breath to the brightness. It may take one year, two years… but it’s worth it. Because in a couple of years’ time you will completely become brightness. You do not need to do anything more. This is very, very, very powerful. It’s worth trying and you don’t need any master, or anybody to guide you. You can do it yourself. And at your own speed.
Q: If we are too kind and compassionate, we will lose ourselves. Yet, we are supposed to be selfless. Where is the ideal line between serving others and pursuing one’s own goals?
A: That is very simple. First of all, you have to take care of yourself. Because you have taken birth to enjoy this existence. So, by denying everything you cannot move forward. But while living, if you have an attitude of kindness, an attitude of compassion, that is selflessness. It is not denying any of the things which you would probably want. Like the food, the clothing, the house, whatever you want to enjoy. Not as per the greed, but as per the need. The world does not expect you to starve and feed another person. Like they say in the airplane, „First you put the mask on your face, then help other people.“ First you be happy. Only when you are happy will you be able to help other people. You should not expand your happiness, e.g. “I need one million dollars more to be happy than what I have now”, etc. Then it will be difficult to serve other people. But if you can be satisfied with what you have, and you are enjoying your life and at the same time you are expressing compassion, and you are expressing kindness, you will not hurt anybody through thought, word, action, you are selfless. And it is not only about spending money. Charity or selflessness is not only spending money on somebody. It is like, a child is crying and you put your hand around the child and say, “Don’t worry, I’m with you.” That is selfless expression of compassion. It is the opposite of indifference. Or, you had a good meal, you are very happy, and you saw a very old, poor woman with no food for the last two days, and you buy that person a piece of bread. That is selflessness. It is the attitude that you will exist in 100% non-violence in thought, word and action. If you do that, you will automatically raise your consciousness to the higher. There cannot be any greed. Greed or selfishness cannot happen.
Bless You All
(Transcribed by Biljana V.)